It’s hard to understand relationship now. I see people changing boy friend like changing cloths, one a year. I see people who have been together for years ended up break up and become stranger. I see people who have been giving up everything just to be together ended up become enemy.
Reason giving by those changing boy friends like changing cloths is to give herself/himself more choice. So they never think of to get married when they start each relationship. They just feel that they found the right person at that moment, that’s why they started the relationship. Time passed, they started to see differences and none of them want to change for each other, so break up.
Reason for those together for years and ended up strangers, they thought they found the right person, so they just stick together for years. When come to the point where everyone asks them to get married, they started to think whether they can or they want to spend the rest of their life together with the partner. That’s the time where they suddenly realize, no, they don’t want to spend their life together, so they break up.
Reason for those giving up everything to be together but ended up enemy, they didn’t see anything else when they wanted to be together. They don’t understand why so many people give negative feedback to their relationship; they only see love in each other eyes. Time passed, fairy tales ended, they are back to reality. They realize that there is no fairy tales in this world and he/she is not prince/princess, so they break up.
People can break up for many reasons. I just don’t understand, is there still anyone will start a relationship by planning to married this person? Is there still anyone will start a relationship only after understanding him/her and wanted to spend rest of life together?
12/12/2008
12/10/2008
Moving on the same pace?
In a relationship, 2 people must move on the same pace. Just like getting married, if only one party feel that it is time for marriage, it won’t work. That is why people saying that marriage is something that will happen only when 2 right people meet at the right time, right place and have the urge to get married at the same time.
I have seen some couples, they were together for so many years and they ended up separated when everyone thought they are getting married soon. Reason: only one party feel like want to get married, the other party wanted to wait longer. Not to waste time, they separated. Suddenly, only after a while, one party come and tells you that he/she are getting married with her/his new partner.
I have seen some couples where they were school mate for years, rumors here and there for years and after too long, none of the friends thinking that they will be together anymore. Suddenly both of them become couple and get married.
Sounds familiar right? These things happen around us everyday. Why?
Both parties moving on the same pace when a relationship started, time passed, some couples realize that their partner slow down, some couples feel that their partner moving too fast, some couples feels that they stopped…….This is the time where both the couple started to reconsider about their relationship.
Some couples take only months to know that both of them moving on by using different speed, some take years, the sad thing is, some takes life long time to realize…..
Are you moving on the same pace? You are faster or you are slower? Will you catch up your the other half? Will you wait for your the other half? Think…………
I have seen some couples, they were together for so many years and they ended up separated when everyone thought they are getting married soon. Reason: only one party feel like want to get married, the other party wanted to wait longer. Not to waste time, they separated. Suddenly, only after a while, one party come and tells you that he/she are getting married with her/his new partner.
I have seen some couples where they were school mate for years, rumors here and there for years and after too long, none of the friends thinking that they will be together anymore. Suddenly both of them become couple and get married.
Sounds familiar right? These things happen around us everyday. Why?
Both parties moving on the same pace when a relationship started, time passed, some couples realize that their partner slow down, some couples feel that their partner moving too fast, some couples feels that they stopped…….This is the time where both the couple started to reconsider about their relationship.
Some couples take only months to know that both of them moving on by using different speed, some take years, the sad thing is, some takes life long time to realize…..
Are you moving on the same pace? You are faster or you are slower? Will you catch up your the other half? Will you wait for your the other half? Think…………
12/04/2008
Quarantine
Just watched Quarantine, for me, this a great movie. At least, this is the 1st movie that can shock me :). If you are a scary movie lover (I mean real scary movie, not that "scary movie"...) and not much movies can scared you, this is one of the best.
I like scary movies and so far Shutter is the only one up to my expectation. This time Quarantine really surprise me. Warning: Pregnant women and those with heart diseases need to think twice before you purchase the ticket...
:P
I like scary movies and so far Shutter is the only one up to my expectation. This time Quarantine really surprise me. Warning: Pregnant women and those with heart diseases need to think twice before you purchase the ticket...
:P
11/21/2008
Stories in Hospital
In the hospital, I can see different patient sent into the ward, some of them don’t even manage to stay for more than an hour.
There was a very young patient sent in one afternoon, a young mother following. The patient struggled to pull out all the pipes and needles on his body when he just sent in, when nurse read his blood pressure, it suddenly go so high, emergency rescue start immediately, sitting there, I don’t even dare to look at him. After a while, they sent him to the operation theater and he never come back...I don’t know whether he still alive but I can never forgot the mother’s tears.
I can see some family member waiting beside their bed, just hope to see them wake up and walk out of the ward. Some of the patient has been there for months, their family members don’t even know what happened to them, and they just want the patient to talk to them again. Some of the patients were seriously injured, head, arm, leg, body...none of them is in normal shape but they never give up, they are fighting to survive, they don’t want to leave their family.
The worst case is the patient lying beside my father’s bed; he was there for 2 months. According to his wife, someone told them that the patient bang on a tree in a car. The car looked ok but they don’t understand why the driver can’t even talk, walk or even move anymore. On the day my father discharged, the doctor tells the wife, you have only 2 choices: send him for operation by 12noon and he might die in the operation theater, even come out, he will still die at the end or switch off all the support system, leave him here until he die. The patient lying on the bed, eyes opening and looking at the doctors, he might be able to understand what doctor said but he can’t move, I don’t know how he feel but I am very sad when I know this news from my sister.
His family has discussion and even quarrel before making decision. The brother wants to send him for operation and said it is his faith if he die in the theater. Other disagree, they don’t want him to suffer for another time. The wife holding his hand, sit next to him, talk to him for whole afternoon...
The family finally chooses to bring him home. When I reached there to pick up my father, the nurses alcohol rub (normally only do it on dead body) the patient, I thought he is dead, the nurse even left the curtain half open with him naked on the bed. After a while, they help him to wear back his cloth and then the patient open his eye, staring at his wife...he is not dead!!
I don’t know how is he condition now, I’m not sure whether they manage to bring him home, I am not sure whether he is happy at his home now...but every time I think of what my sis told me, I feel sad.
How can people simply give up their life when there are so many people struggling to survive ?
There was a very young patient sent in one afternoon, a young mother following. The patient struggled to pull out all the pipes and needles on his body when he just sent in, when nurse read his blood pressure, it suddenly go so high, emergency rescue start immediately, sitting there, I don’t even dare to look at him. After a while, they sent him to the operation theater and he never come back...I don’t know whether he still alive but I can never forgot the mother’s tears.
I can see some family member waiting beside their bed, just hope to see them wake up and walk out of the ward. Some of the patient has been there for months, their family members don’t even know what happened to them, and they just want the patient to talk to them again. Some of the patients were seriously injured, head, arm, leg, body...none of them is in normal shape but they never give up, they are fighting to survive, they don’t want to leave their family.
The worst case is the patient lying beside my father’s bed; he was there for 2 months. According to his wife, someone told them that the patient bang on a tree in a car. The car looked ok but they don’t understand why the driver can’t even talk, walk or even move anymore. On the day my father discharged, the doctor tells the wife, you have only 2 choices: send him for operation by 12noon and he might die in the operation theater, even come out, he will still die at the end or switch off all the support system, leave him here until he die. The patient lying on the bed, eyes opening and looking at the doctors, he might be able to understand what doctor said but he can’t move, I don’t know how he feel but I am very sad when I know this news from my sister.
His family has discussion and even quarrel before making decision. The brother wants to send him for operation and said it is his faith if he die in the theater. Other disagree, they don’t want him to suffer for another time. The wife holding his hand, sit next to him, talk to him for whole afternoon...
The family finally chooses to bring him home. When I reached there to pick up my father, the nurses alcohol rub (normally only do it on dead body) the patient, I thought he is dead, the nurse even left the curtain half open with him naked on the bed. After a while, they help him to wear back his cloth and then the patient open his eye, staring at his wife...he is not dead!!
I don’t know how is he condition now, I’m not sure whether they manage to bring him home, I am not sure whether he is happy at his home now...but every time I think of what my sis told me, I feel sad.
How can people simply give up their life when there are so many people struggling to survive ?
Thank God, My Dad is fine now
My father discharged after 6 days in the hospital. He is recovering well now. Thanks to you all who sent flower basket, sms, visit, and concern. Thanks for your encouragement too, without your encouragement, it'll be hard for me.
Thanks.
Thanks.
Scary Night
14 November 2008, Thursday, 5pm. I was in my office. Someone called my aunt and say that my father involved in an accident. No one knows what his condition is now and they didn't even manage to know which hospital he is in. The only information is the accident happened near Guar Cempedak.
I was shocked but I know I have to look for which hospital they sent my father to. I search the number on line, start from Klinik Kesihatan Guar Cempedak, then Hospital Yan and finally Hospital Besar Alor Setar. The staff told me that he is under “separa critical” condition, I don’t really understand how serious is that, but with the word critical, sounds really serious to me.
Immediately I contacted all my siblings, coordinate on how they are coming back then I rush back to SP to pick up my mother, my youngest sister and Francis bring my brother back from Penang then we all rush to Alor Setar.
When I arrived, the staff told me that my dad is in critical zone…it really shocked me. I rushed into the emergency room, my dad looks ok, only some wound on his left face. Someone told me that actually he woke up before and fall asleep again. A lady doctor told me that my dad actually suffered stroke while ridding motorcycle on the highway and fall from motorbike. They did the scanning and waiting for General Hospital Penang to accept him.
Finally, General Hospital Pinang decided to accept my father case and he has been transferred immediately. I still remember the first question the nurse asked him and his answered really scared me. The nurse pointed at my brother and asked: “Who is he?” My father looked at him for a while and said “friend”. Luckily he can still remember who we are after a while.
That was the longest night I can have in my life...really long...
I was shocked but I know I have to look for which hospital they sent my father to. I search the number on line, start from Klinik Kesihatan Guar Cempedak, then Hospital Yan and finally Hospital Besar Alor Setar. The staff told me that he is under “separa critical” condition, I don’t really understand how serious is that, but with the word critical, sounds really serious to me.
Immediately I contacted all my siblings, coordinate on how they are coming back then I rush back to SP to pick up my mother, my youngest sister and Francis bring my brother back from Penang then we all rush to Alor Setar.
When I arrived, the staff told me that my dad is in critical zone…it really shocked me. I rushed into the emergency room, my dad looks ok, only some wound on his left face. Someone told me that actually he woke up before and fall asleep again. A lady doctor told me that my dad actually suffered stroke while ridding motorcycle on the highway and fall from motorbike. They did the scanning and waiting for General Hospital Penang to accept him.
Finally, General Hospital Pinang decided to accept my father case and he has been transferred immediately. I still remember the first question the nurse asked him and his answered really scared me. The nurse pointed at my brother and asked: “Who is he?” My father looked at him for a while and said “friend”. Luckily he can still remember who we are after a while.
That was the longest night I can have in my life...really long...
11/09/2008
11/03/2008
Songkai-KL-Genting-Bukit Tinggi-Melaka-KL-Ipoh
We took 10 days to fulfill this plan, start from 17 Oct- 27 Oct. Actually all these start from the invitation for us to attend a wedding dinner in KL. I wanted to back pack for so long, although this time is only in Malaysia and with help of some friends, but I think this is a good start. If you have the same dream as me, you might start with this plan.
On 17 Oct, on the way to KL, we dropped by Songkai hot spring. This is a good place to relax yourself. The entrance fee is RM 10.00 per person. If you go on weekday, there will not be too many people and you can enjoy the hot spring as long as you want. There is a facility to cook eggs, little tips for you; you can bring some eggs to cook half boil egg (of course, you need to smuggle in, hehe). If you do not mind paying more, you can buy at the entrance (anyway, I’m not sure how much they are selling). Francis and I even bring a tupperware with soy source and pepper (o, remember to bring spoon). Due to time constraint, we just stopped there for 2 hours before we proceed to KL.
At KL, after the wedding on Friday, we stayed in a budget hotel named Top Hill, it’s quite near to LRT station, not a bad choice if you want to stay next time. We still got time to visit One Utama on Saturday night after the wedding ceremony. We moved to stay at our friend house located at PJ seksyen 14 and we are lucky, it’s an accessible place to everywhere we want to go. In KL, it’s not a good choice to drive if you are not familiar with the road in town. So, the only place that we drive to is National Zoo. The entrance fee is RM 15 per person. At night, we went to IKEA.
Monday (20 Oct), the original plan is to get the free ticket to skybridge at Petronas tower. Too bad…it’s close on Monday. Don’t worry, that give us more time to spend in Akuaria KLCC. With Mykad, the entrance fee for adult is RM 28.00. We spend almost whole day there just to make sure that we watched all the feeding. At night, we visited the night market at Seksyen 2, good trip; at least I managed to get 2 scarves at RM 10.00each.
Tuesday (21 Oct), we make our trip to Genting. On the way, we dropped by Batu Cave. When we arrived at Genting, it’s quite late in the afternoon, so we decided just to walk around to enjoy the night. Wednesday (22 Oct) , we buy the unlimited rides ticket for all parks. Although the weather is not too good, we still manage to play for all the games that we want. At night, we went for DREAMZ the magic + dance show (tickets is free for us when we book the room for 3 days 2 nights). Actually the main attraction for the show is the white tiger and lion…which come out only around 1 minute during the show only…To make the trip worth it, we pay RM 100 to take photo with both the lion and the tiger.
Thursday (23 Oct), we make our move to Melaka, on the way stopped by at Bukit Tinggi. Emm…not really attractive, not worth it if you purposely make the trip. We still managed to make it a worth trip…because we rent a KIMONO for RM 40 per set and take pictures at the Japanese Tea House. Haha, don’t laugh when you see the pictures.
We arrived at Melaka near to dinner time, after check in at City Park hotel (a good hotel to stay if you can ignore the pub outside the hotel), we went for Satay Celup. It’s just LOK-LOK with the satay paste as the soup base but taste nice and the most important thing is CHEAP-much cheaper then LOK-LOK in Penang. Both of us eat around 40 sticks + 2 bread + 2 drinks and it cost us only RM 26.
Friday (24 Oct), Melaka Zoo… This is the best zoo in Malaysia that I been too. We can interact with the animal closely. Not like National Zoo where all the animals is lock in a cage and it’s quite hard to spot for them. The entrance fee is only RM 7.00. Emmm…tell you something, don’t tell people, I give some biscuit (anyway, next time I will bring fruits…I don’t want to kill them) to the sun bear and they all are so cute…later I will upload the video clip to you tube and I’m sure you all will agree with me. Luckily there are not much people on that day, I don’t want to do it in front of kids, just in case they simply throw bottles of stick to hurt them. The Orang Utan are also very cute. The female Orang Utan knows how to post when you call them. The male one even knows how to use a bottle to fill water and drink it from the bottle like human beings. We walked from 11am in the morning until 5.45pm in the evening in Melaka Zoo, it’s really worth it. A tips for you, don’t go on Friday, don’t go if it’s raining too, weekend will be good time, they will have animal show, elephant ride, and can take photo with Orang Utan. Too bad, I went on Friday and it’s a rainy day (and I can still spend almost 7 hours there). After come out from zoo, we walked to opposite and visited crocodile farm. The only conclusion I can make from the visit…All crocodiles are the same…only 6 poses, close eyes, open eyes, close mouth, open mouth, inside the water and outside the water. Entrance fee, RM 5.00…not worth it. At night, we went to JONKER STREET. Good place to visit, I will make sure I go again. Not for shopping, but to enjoy the environment, to see the buildings and of course to see the things that they sell.
Saturday (25 Oct), Melaka one day trip, we have the chicken rice ball near to Jonker street. After that, we went for A Farmosa and the museums around. Then we managed to window shopping at Dataran Pahlawan as well (actually just to get some air-conditioner). At tea time, we stopped at a shop in Jonker Street, they offer good Nyonya Asam Laksa and Baba Laksa. That’s really a good meal. During dinner time, we planned to have another Satay Celup but we ended up eating a good “duck noodle”. Why? Because the queue is too long….Then we end our trip and back to KL.
Sunday (26 Oct), we make our last try to Sky Bridge and failed again. The free tickets finished by the time we reached there at 11am. A lady told us that she was there at 7.30am and the queues were already very long. She managed to get her ticket at 9.00am to go up to the sky bridge at 12.30pm slot. Conclusions, to get free ticket, go before 7am. So we just go for last shopping at Sungai Wang and LawYat. We start our journey back to Penang at 6pm. Just the right time for us to have our Ipoh bean sprouts chicken dinner at Ipoh when we arrived at 8pm.
We arrived Penang at 11.300pm on 26 Oct. So we still have one day to rest on 27 Oct. Good trip? Do better online research before your trip and I’m sure you will have a better trip.
On 17 Oct, on the way to KL, we dropped by Songkai hot spring. This is a good place to relax yourself. The entrance fee is RM 10.00 per person. If you go on weekday, there will not be too many people and you can enjoy the hot spring as long as you want. There is a facility to cook eggs, little tips for you; you can bring some eggs to cook half boil egg (of course, you need to smuggle in, hehe). If you do not mind paying more, you can buy at the entrance (anyway, I’m not sure how much they are selling). Francis and I even bring a tupperware with soy source and pepper (o, remember to bring spoon). Due to time constraint, we just stopped there for 2 hours before we proceed to KL.
At KL, after the wedding on Friday, we stayed in a budget hotel named Top Hill, it’s quite near to LRT station, not a bad choice if you want to stay next time. We still got time to visit One Utama on Saturday night after the wedding ceremony. We moved to stay at our friend house located at PJ seksyen 14 and we are lucky, it’s an accessible place to everywhere we want to go. In KL, it’s not a good choice to drive if you are not familiar with the road in town. So, the only place that we drive to is National Zoo. The entrance fee is RM 15 per person. At night, we went to IKEA.
Monday (20 Oct), the original plan is to get the free ticket to skybridge at Petronas tower. Too bad…it’s close on Monday. Don’t worry, that give us more time to spend in Akuaria KLCC. With Mykad, the entrance fee for adult is RM 28.00. We spend almost whole day there just to make sure that we watched all the feeding. At night, we visited the night market at Seksyen 2, good trip; at least I managed to get 2 scarves at RM 10.00each.
Tuesday (21 Oct), we make our trip to Genting. On the way, we dropped by Batu Cave. When we arrived at Genting, it’s quite late in the afternoon, so we decided just to walk around to enjoy the night. Wednesday (22 Oct) , we buy the unlimited rides ticket for all parks. Although the weather is not too good, we still manage to play for all the games that we want. At night, we went for DREAMZ the magic + dance show (tickets is free for us when we book the room for 3 days 2 nights). Actually the main attraction for the show is the white tiger and lion…which come out only around 1 minute during the show only…To make the trip worth it, we pay RM 100 to take photo with both the lion and the tiger.
Thursday (23 Oct), we make our move to Melaka, on the way stopped by at Bukit Tinggi. Emm…not really attractive, not worth it if you purposely make the trip. We still managed to make it a worth trip…because we rent a KIMONO for RM 40 per set and take pictures at the Japanese Tea House. Haha, don’t laugh when you see the pictures.
We arrived at Melaka near to dinner time, after check in at City Park hotel (a good hotel to stay if you can ignore the pub outside the hotel), we went for Satay Celup. It’s just LOK-LOK with the satay paste as the soup base but taste nice and the most important thing is CHEAP-much cheaper then LOK-LOK in Penang. Both of us eat around 40 sticks + 2 bread + 2 drinks and it cost us only RM 26.
Friday (24 Oct), Melaka Zoo… This is the best zoo in Malaysia that I been too. We can interact with the animal closely. Not like National Zoo where all the animals is lock in a cage and it’s quite hard to spot for them. The entrance fee is only RM 7.00. Emmm…tell you something, don’t tell people, I give some biscuit (anyway, next time I will bring fruits…I don’t want to kill them) to the sun bear and they all are so cute…later I will upload the video clip to you tube and I’m sure you all will agree with me. Luckily there are not much people on that day, I don’t want to do it in front of kids, just in case they simply throw bottles of stick to hurt them. The Orang Utan are also very cute. The female Orang Utan knows how to post when you call them. The male one even knows how to use a bottle to fill water and drink it from the bottle like human beings. We walked from 11am in the morning until 5.45pm in the evening in Melaka Zoo, it’s really worth it. A tips for you, don’t go on Friday, don’t go if it’s raining too, weekend will be good time, they will have animal show, elephant ride, and can take photo with Orang Utan. Too bad, I went on Friday and it’s a rainy day (and I can still spend almost 7 hours there). After come out from zoo, we walked to opposite and visited crocodile farm. The only conclusion I can make from the visit…All crocodiles are the same…only 6 poses, close eyes, open eyes, close mouth, open mouth, inside the water and outside the water. Entrance fee, RM 5.00…not worth it. At night, we went to JONKER STREET. Good place to visit, I will make sure I go again. Not for shopping, but to enjoy the environment, to see the buildings and of course to see the things that they sell.
Saturday (25 Oct), Melaka one day trip, we have the chicken rice ball near to Jonker street. After that, we went for A Farmosa and the museums around. Then we managed to window shopping at Dataran Pahlawan as well (actually just to get some air-conditioner). At tea time, we stopped at a shop in Jonker Street, they offer good Nyonya Asam Laksa and Baba Laksa. That’s really a good meal. During dinner time, we planned to have another Satay Celup but we ended up eating a good “duck noodle”. Why? Because the queue is too long….Then we end our trip and back to KL.
Sunday (26 Oct), we make our last try to Sky Bridge and failed again. The free tickets finished by the time we reached there at 11am. A lady told us that she was there at 7.30am and the queues were already very long. She managed to get her ticket at 9.00am to go up to the sky bridge at 12.30pm slot. Conclusions, to get free ticket, go before 7am. So we just go for last shopping at Sungai Wang and LawYat. We start our journey back to Penang at 6pm. Just the right time for us to have our Ipoh bean sprouts chicken dinner at Ipoh when we arrived at 8pm.
We arrived Penang at 11.300pm on 26 Oct. So we still have one day to rest on 27 Oct. Good trip? Do better online research before your trip and I’m sure you will have a better trip.
10/20/2008
9/24/2008
Will you mind if your partner do this?
Guys, let me ask you a question. If you see pictures (current, not past) of your partner being hug (the man stand behind her, hand rounding her neck with her hand on his) by another man, do you mind? Will you feel unhappy?
Ladies, is your turn. What if you see your partner hugging another girl with above post (not the first time and it is “upgrading” from just putting hand on waist, now to hugging tight)? Do you mind? Will you feel unhappy?
Hope that you all will feel interested to do some brainstorming; just want to know how you all think. If you can think better by assuming I’m the one facing the problem, I don’t mind :D.
Thanks.
Ladies, is your turn. What if you see your partner hugging another girl with above post (not the first time and it is “upgrading” from just putting hand on waist, now to hugging tight)? Do you mind? Will you feel unhappy?
Hope that you all will feel interested to do some brainstorming; just want to know how you all think. If you can think better by assuming I’m the one facing the problem, I don’t mind :D.
Thanks.
9/03/2008
Are leader born or made?
Joseph asked me a question which makes me think…Are leader born or made?
To me, leader needs to be born before he/she was made. There must be something inside the leader since he/she born which can help him/her to be a leader at the right time.
Among new born babies lying on the bed in hospital’s babies room, you will see some babies who can catch your eyes automatically (I’m not talking about your own baby, I mean we as an outsider). If 3 of the babies cry together, one of them will definitely attract the nurse.
When kids playing together, there will be one of them who will lead the play. Automatically others will follow the lead (and cost world war 4). When there are quarrel among the kids, which means there are 2 leaders who don’t want to follow each others lead. There are kids who don’t like each other even at their first meeting because they feel the attention that has been divert by each other. Parents are no longer focusing on one but two. So, both of them are leaders.
So, leaders were born.
Why do I said then the leader need to be made?
If someone was born as a leader and the family keep on telling them that they are useless, they never have a chance to go to school, they mix with gangster (may be they can be the leader of gangster?!)
If someone was born as a leader but no one lead and train him/her, they might not know that they are leader. They might not understand why everyone following what they do, they might not know how to control their own ego when they realize the power that they have, and they still can’t be a good leader.
Conclusion, leader need to be born before he/she was made.
To me, leader needs to be born before he/she was made. There must be something inside the leader since he/she born which can help him/her to be a leader at the right time.
Among new born babies lying on the bed in hospital’s babies room, you will see some babies who can catch your eyes automatically (I’m not talking about your own baby, I mean we as an outsider). If 3 of the babies cry together, one of them will definitely attract the nurse.
When kids playing together, there will be one of them who will lead the play. Automatically others will follow the lead (and cost world war 4). When there are quarrel among the kids, which means there are 2 leaders who don’t want to follow each others lead. There are kids who don’t like each other even at their first meeting because they feel the attention that has been divert by each other. Parents are no longer focusing on one but two. So, both of them are leaders.
So, leaders were born.
Why do I said then the leader need to be made?
If someone was born as a leader and the family keep on telling them that they are useless, they never have a chance to go to school, they mix with gangster (may be they can be the leader of gangster?!)
If someone was born as a leader but no one lead and train him/her, they might not know that they are leader. They might not understand why everyone following what they do, they might not know how to control their own ego when they realize the power that they have, and they still can’t be a good leader.
Conclusion, leader need to be born before he/she was made.
What is Love?
Love is in a heart shape and it’s something that both sides should share half of it. At the same time, each side is responsible on half of the shape.
Love need to be equivalent. When love started to lost balance, both sides will feel the pain.
1) One side giving more then the other side
- The one giving more will ask for more from the other one, if the other one do not want to give more, he/she might step back. More he/she stepped back, the one will continue to give and force the other one to give. This cycle continue until the heart shape was fully taking over by one side, ended up, they break up.
2) Both sides not giving but only taking
- Both sides are no longer giving to maintain the relationship but only taking away. Each other are no longer taking responsible on the heart shape. So, both sides will step further and further and ended up the shape disappear.
Love is always too complicated for us to understand……..
Love need to be equivalent. When love started to lost balance, both sides will feel the pain.
1) One side giving more then the other side
- The one giving more will ask for more from the other one, if the other one do not want to give more, he/she might step back. More he/she stepped back, the one will continue to give and force the other one to give. This cycle continue until the heart shape was fully taking over by one side, ended up, they break up.
2) Both sides not giving but only taking
- Both sides are no longer giving to maintain the relationship but only taking away. Each other are no longer taking responsible on the heart shape. So, both sides will step further and further and ended up the shape disappear.
Love is always too complicated for us to understand……..
9/02/2008
Merdeka Spirit @ Penang 2008 - Events day
I have no idea that I will sit at the same roll with CM......That is why I did not wear formal....(and actually I was told by Mr Franco to wear casual...) I will make sure I won't make the same mistake anymore.
Digging out my phone..while I'm on candid camera.
Looks really serious (aka fierce) when I am not smiling....I hate taking photo from side angle....
* Can you see CM?
Overall, it was a good show althought there are no famous starsssss...haha, but we have Jazelyn (A Chinese who sing Malay song), Mahadhir (A singer with a dancing group and he was the MCee on that day too)and Man Jiang Hong.
Other then these, we have a great band. In fact, I feel that this band performance is the best. The main singer named YC has a great voice who catched everyone attention. Their performance are so good until someone request them to come out again for 3rd time. The credit goes to you SANDRIES!!
Digging out my phone..while I'm on candid camera.
Looks really serious (aka fierce) when I am not smiling....I hate taking photo from side angle....
* Can you see CM?
Overall, it was a good show althought there are no famous starsssss...haha, but we have Jazelyn (A Chinese who sing Malay song), Mahadhir (A singer with a dancing group and he was the MCee on that day too)and Man Jiang Hong.
Other then these, we have a great band. In fact, I feel that this band performance is the best. The main singer named YC has a great voice who catched everyone attention. Their performance are so good until someone request them to come out again for 3rd time. The credit goes to you SANDRIES!!
8/29/2008
A good leader
There are some people who can never be a leader. Even he become a leader coincidently, he will be a lousy leader. May be he is a good leader in the eyes of his staffs (to certain extent only)and he is a good leader in the eyes of his boss (to certain extend too), he is a good leader only when everything go on smoothly!
This leader can go to karaoke, barbecue with the staffs like friends. He will help the staffs to cover up all the mistake that the staffs made, he will approve the leave for all the staffs under his responsibility, he will answer his staffs phone call after office hour to help her writing an official email.
Hey, why am I saying that he is not a good leader? He should be a perfect leader?! Of course not! He will never be a good leader.
Ya, many leaders go to karaoke, barbecue with the staffs like friends but will their girl friend being asked by the staffs to sing and being "scold" because can't sing well? Will the staffs ask the leader to prepare for food during barbecue? okok, there might be some really close team will do so.
Show me one leader who will allow the staffs to do careless mistake client's place and help them to cover up? Ya, you help the staffs to cover up without punishment to them, so they take it for granted and made the same mistake again. This time the client get crazy and shout at the stupid leader. Ended up, the leader ruined his own reputation and need to fire the staff because the client do not want the staff in his place anymore.
The leader approved the leave for all the staffs under his responsibility. Ended up, when there is a rejection, the staffs get very angry and question him "why every time can approve but this time can not?", " why you approve the leave for her but not me?", "you can cover for me, so I want to on leave!".
The leader answer his staffs phone call after office hour to help her writing an official email. "Boss, I don't know how to write the email, it's so hard." " Let me teach you, you type everything that I read to you now." In the other way, it's like this: "Boss, I'm hungry, I don't know how to cook." "No worries, let me cook for you, now you open your mouth, I feed you."
What if the staff just type the email exactly like what the leader read and didn't do any second checking before send out, then there are mistakes in the email. What do you think will happen? The staff will tell everyone, I called the leader, he is the one ask me to write like this, so it's not my fault. May be there is no mistake in the email but next time, same situation and the staff will call the leader again to teach her how to write the same email.
Do you still think this is a good leader? Ya, he is a good leader to his staffs, right? He is a good leader to the boss too, because all the staffs like him. Ya, because he can be scolded not only by bosses but staffs, he is just a doggy that everyone need in the company so that they got someone to blame on when anything happen, he has no respect from anyone when bad things happened. One day, when the boss finally feel that they do not need this dog anymore, this so call leader will be dump to the roadside....
This leader can go to karaoke, barbecue with the staffs like friends. He will help the staffs to cover up all the mistake that the staffs made, he will approve the leave for all the staffs under his responsibility, he will answer his staffs phone call after office hour to help her writing an official email.
Hey, why am I saying that he is not a good leader? He should be a perfect leader?! Of course not! He will never be a good leader.
Ya, many leaders go to karaoke, barbecue with the staffs like friends but will their girl friend being asked by the staffs to sing and being "scold" because can't sing well? Will the staffs ask the leader to prepare for food during barbecue? okok, there might be some really close team will do so.
Show me one leader who will allow the staffs to do careless mistake client's place and help them to cover up? Ya, you help the staffs to cover up without punishment to them, so they take it for granted and made the same mistake again. This time the client get crazy and shout at the stupid leader. Ended up, the leader ruined his own reputation and need to fire the staff because the client do not want the staff in his place anymore.
The leader approved the leave for all the staffs under his responsibility. Ended up, when there is a rejection, the staffs get very angry and question him "why every time can approve but this time can not?", " why you approve the leave for her but not me?", "you can cover for me, so I want to on leave!".
The leader answer his staffs phone call after office hour to help her writing an official email. "Boss, I don't know how to write the email, it's so hard." " Let me teach you, you type everything that I read to you now." In the other way, it's like this: "Boss, I'm hungry, I don't know how to cook." "No worries, let me cook for you, now you open your mouth, I feed you."
What if the staff just type the email exactly like what the leader read and didn't do any second checking before send out, then there are mistakes in the email. What do you think will happen? The staff will tell everyone, I called the leader, he is the one ask me to write like this, so it's not my fault. May be there is no mistake in the email but next time, same situation and the staff will call the leader again to teach her how to write the same email.
Do you still think this is a good leader? Ya, he is a good leader to his staffs, right? He is a good leader to the boss too, because all the staffs like him. Ya, because he can be scolded not only by bosses but staffs, he is just a doggy that everyone need in the company so that they got someone to blame on when anything happen, he has no respect from anyone when bad things happened. One day, when the boss finally feel that they do not need this dog anymore, this so call leader will be dump to the roadside....
F A M I L Y
I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
'Oh excuse me please' was my reply.
He said, 'Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you.'
We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.
But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.
Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
'Move out of the way,' I said with a frown.
He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.
While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,
'While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.
Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.'
By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
'Wake up, little one, wake up,' I said.
'Are these the flowers you picked for me?'
He smiled, 'I found 'em, out by the tree.
I picked 'em because they're pretty like you
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue.'
I said, 'Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way.'
He said, 'Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway.'
I said, 'Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue.'
FAMILY
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in
a matter of days.
But the family we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives.
And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed,
don't you think?
So what is behind the story?
Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU
'Oh excuse me please' was my reply.
He said, 'Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you.'
We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.
But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.
Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
'Move out of the way,' I said with a frown.
He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.
While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,
'While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.
Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.'
By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
'Wake up, little one, wake up,' I said.
'Are these the flowers you picked for me?'
He smiled, 'I found 'em, out by the tree.
I picked 'em because they're pretty like you
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue.'
I said, 'Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way.'
He said, 'Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway.'
I said, 'Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue.'
FAMILY
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in
a matter of days.
But the family we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives.
And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed,
don't you think?
So what is behind the story?
Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU
8/28/2008
My reason
Reason:
1. Relationship (all types) should be:
a. Sincere
i. No lies
b. Unique
i. Different people shared different memories, even is a group
activity, you might share some memories with certain friends
and some other memories with the other friends.
c. Belong only to each other
i. The relationship belongs to both of you only, refer to 2nd
rules.
Deep.....don't understand....:P
1. Relationship (all types) should be:
a. Sincere
i. No lies
b. Unique
i. Different people shared different memories, even is a group
activity, you might share some memories with certain friends
and some other memories with the other friends.
c. Belong only to each other
i. The relationship belongs to both of you only, refer to 2nd
rules.
Deep.....don't understand....:P
My Answer
My answer for part one question 1 to 3 is to tell the partners. For question 4, I will ask him/her to go to hell!
My answer for part two question 1 to 3 is to break up. For question 4, same answer as above!
Hehe, I guess those who know me will just skip this entry, because they already know my answer!
My answer for part two question 1 to 3 is to break up. For question 4, same answer as above!
Hehe, I guess those who know me will just skip this entry, because they already know my answer!
Thinking activities
Let’s do some thinking activities:
If it happens to others:
1. What if you see your friend’s boy friend hugging other girls?
2. What if you know your friend having 2 gf/bf at the same time?
3. What if you realize that the partner of the person you love have attitude
problem?
4. What if your friend is interested in someone gf/bf?
If it happens to you:
1. What if you see your bf/gf holding hands with someone?
2. What if your partner having 2 gf/bf at the same time?
3. What if you realize your gf/bf have attitude problem?
4. What if your friend tells you that she/he is interested with your gf/bf?
What will you do?
If it happens to others:
1. What if you see your friend’s boy friend hugging other girls?
2. What if you know your friend having 2 gf/bf at the same time?
3. What if you realize that the partner of the person you love have attitude
problem?
4. What if your friend is interested in someone gf/bf?
If it happens to you:
1. What if you see your bf/gf holding hands with someone?
2. What if your partner having 2 gf/bf at the same time?
3. What if you realize your gf/bf have attitude problem?
4. What if your friend tells you that she/he is interested with your gf/bf?
What will you do?
8/25/2008
Do you know anyone like this?
My seat is very near to fax machine. Normally many people will go to check whether they received any fax from the machine. Each of them has different ways to check it but there is one which I feel disgusting.
He will put his finger to his tongue before he touch the paper!! Just imagine, his finger is full of his saliva and he touches every single paper at the fax machine at that time!!!!!! I just can’t stand his behavior, every time when I see any fax, I will rush to check if it’s mine before he touch it, if not, I will definitely use only tissue paper before take it up….
He will put his finger to his tongue before he touch the paper!! Just imagine, his finger is full of his saliva and he touches every single paper at the fax machine at that time!!!!!! I just can’t stand his behavior, every time when I see any fax, I will rush to check if it’s mine before he touch it, if not, I will definitely use only tissue paper before take it up….
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